Nigerian in-laws can be a heck of work sometimes
Nigerian in-laws can be one heck of a people to please.
Some in-laws are either against the marriage or have just developed a sudden hatred for the wife or the husband.
Although there are beautiful in-laws around the world, as a wife or husband, you must constantly work towards pleasing them, because as we know, feelings can be very fickle.
Many stories about wicked in-laws who do all that is in their power to destry their child’s marriage have been heard
Some of these in-laws have done a good job, while some have been unable to put a end to the love story.
It is also important to open our eyes very wide before getting married, because true love is not actually blind as we have been made to understand.
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Making some findings abouut the famiky you are about to get married into is not been nosy at all, as a matter of fact, it is been proactive.
Make sure that you know the family, find out that they are amazing people and find out if you can live with their beliefs and practices or not; we don’t want to be like the proverbial frog in a pot of boiling water.
And for those who are already in caught in the snare, there’s always a way to go about it.
Here, we have gathered 5 ways you can please your Nigerian in-laws. Read and ponder:
1. RESPECT THEM (WITH THE BELIEVE THAT THEY ARE SUPERIOR)
Your in-laws are naturally meant to be respected.
However, when you begin to think low of your in-laws perhaps because they aren’t educated or because they are not in the same societal class as you are, you might begin to unintentionally disrespect them.
Even if your in-laws are not from the rich class, your marriage into the family demands that you rrspect each and everyone of the family members.
Some in-laws just want to make life difficult for the couple but this should not hinder your respect for them, because then they will be unable to point accusing fingers at you.
2. BE YOURSELF AROUND THEM
Don’t be too extra around them, don’t be sluggish, don’t accept what you won’t be able to able to live with later on.
Sometimes in a bid to please our in-laws, we accept to do things we do not usually do or things we do not like or things we cannot live with.
This should not be the case, because there would come a time when you might not be able to hold it any longer and the sudden outburst will leave your in-laws wondering if you were the partner their child actually married
3. BE POLITE
Sometimes, people get unconsciously impolite.
Watching the kind of language you use is part of being polite, knowing what to say in particular contexts is part of being polite and smart as well.
Peradventure you land yourself very intelligent in-laws who might want to be on the lookout for how you present yourself in terms of what you say. Do you just flop? No.
To be polite requires conscious efforts; you must know what to say to elderly people, what not to say, how to reply to questions and the likes.
4. ALWAYS ALLOW THEIR CORRECTIONS AND SUGGESTIONS BE THE MOST ACCURATE
Even when you do not agree with what your in-laws might have said or suggested, it wouldn’t do to just throw it in their faces like that.
These suggestions might not be accurate at all, but trying to reason along with them will get them to like you and even respect you.
In-laws and even elderly people in general do not like it when their opinions and suggestions are always bypassed or unaccepted.
Your in-laws might expect little from you and they might expect the world from you some times.
The bottom line is that you study your in-laws well, know what they want and what they don’t.
Do things that would make your in-laws happy, especially your mother in-law.
If you notice that your mother in-law is a social meida user, make sure that you delete all those pictures of yours where you must have flaunted your backside; mothers are natural investigators.
In sum, remember that immediately you get married to your partner, his/her family has become your family and his/her mother has become your mother.
Endeavour to treat your in-laws the same way you’d treat your family and the same way you’d want others to treat them,
Keep the saying “It is amazing what you can do when you set out with preconceived notion,” in mind.
Do not visit your in-laws with the nollywood ideology in mind.